Different Friends in Life
Friends can be classified in two
ways: different genders and different depth of friendship. Firstly, when it
comes to genders, there are friends of the same gender and of the opposite gender.
Generally the friend of the same gender is the most common type of friends,
he/she has common topics with each other, and it is possible for the exchange
of experience. The opposite-gender friends are easier to set up a relationship,
and sometimes opposites attract will occur among opposite-gender friends. It is
easy to communicate and exchange ideas, but sometimes it will restrict: men
will be more gentle than usual, and women will be more ladylike than usual. Secondly,
when friends are classified by depth of relationship, there are best friends, friends
of the same interests, friends like a mentor, and opposite friends.
The first type:
Best friends
This kind of friends are willing to be with you in
your tough days, or when you feel depressed and frustrated. When everything goes
smoothly, instead of being jealous, they can be really happy about your success
and happiness. Being together with this kind of friends, you can usually feel
unconditional trust. In life, there may be only one or two best friends, and it
will become less and less when you grow older.
I have a friend named Bao. She was
my high school roommate. We ate together; we shared selves secrets to each
other; and we seemed like twins. One day we had a test of music. Every student
needed to sing a song in front of other students. I felt really nervous about
that test as I was not good at singing at all; however, nervous though I was, when
I saw her eyes and she nodded to me, I knew that she supported me. Maybe I
still did not sing very will, but when she nodded at me, I felt more powerful
and relaxed to finish next part of song instantly. It was the safety and
courage she gave me that inspired me to continue. I trusted her totally at that
moment.
The second type:
friends of the same interests.
This kind of friends always talk about happy things
with each other. They have interests in common. One can go out together with such
friends and participate in a variety of activities; it will add a lot of fun to
life; but associating with such friends rarely involves personal privacy.
In middle school, I really liked to watch
Japanese anime, but sometimes I needed a friend to share the feelings I had.
Then I knew a person online, and we watched the same anime, and we shared views
about that anime; sometimes we would talk about our life but only about those superficial
topics, such as what city we lived in, what kinds of food would be attractive.
It was a really happy period of time when we talked with each other.
The third type:
friends like a mentor
In life, we need a friend that can
inspire us to be better. Having such a person around will challenge us to be better
ourselves every day.
Xingxing is a sophomore and major in
Public accounting. Although she is one year younger than me, I feel that there
are many things that I need to learn from her. We have two same classes
together this semester. She is really hard-working, every class she will learn
by herself before the professor teaches, she will always finish her homework
before due day, and she is a mentor of her accounting professor, she also works
in success center. It seems that she has a lot of work to do every day, but
whenever I see her, she always looks happy. Together with her, I always feel that
I need do more in a day and that I can do more things than before. I start
working longer on studying rather than computer.
The fourth type: opposite friends
Human
beings are like to get together in groups and attract outsiders. We will only
make friends with those who have the same belief, customs, and value with us,
and probably will phase out the rest of people. But people who are totally
different from you will show you a really different view of word. We should
make friends with people who have opposing views; they can help us to expand the
new version of the world.
Before I came to Unite States, I went to an English center to improve
English skills. A girl who taught me reading impressed me. She was 27 years old
then; she majored in Biological about panda and she did very well, but she gave
up the way she chose before that to became a professor then to become a Doctor
and finally to be an academician. She said she didn’t want a future that was
set already, so she gave it up, wanting to go out to feel different things. At that moment I didn’t understand why she gave up a really good work,
but now I
comprehend. A person shouldn’t be
limited by age, he/she has right to follow his/her heart. It influenced me
about my views of future.