Different Friends in Life

Different Friends in Life

            Friends can be classified in two ways: different genders and different depth of friendship. Firstly, when it comes to genders, there are friends of the same gender and of the opposite gender. Generally the friend of the same gender is the most common type of friends, he/she has common topics with each other, and it is possible for the exchange of experience. The opposite-gender friends are easier to set up a relationship, and sometimes opposites attract will occur among opposite-gender friends. It is easy to communicate and exchange ideas, but sometimes it will restrict: men will be more gentle than usual, and women will be more ladylike than usual. Secondly, when friends are classified by depth of relationship, there are best friends, friends of the same interests, friends like a mentor, and opposite friends.

The first type: Best friends

            This kind of friends are willing to be with you in your tough days, or when you feel depressed and frustrated. When everything goes smoothly, instead of being jealous, they can be really happy about your success and happiness. Being together with this kind of friends, you can usually feel unconditional trust. In life, there may be only one or two best friends, and it will become less and less when you grow older.

            I have a friend named Bao. She was my high school roommate. We ate together; we shared selves secrets to each other; and we seemed like twins. One day we had a test of music. Every student needed to sing a song in front of other students. I felt really nervous about that test as I was not good at singing at all; however, nervous though I was, when I saw her eyes and she nodded to me, I knew that she supported me. Maybe I still did not sing very will, but when she nodded at me, I felt more powerful and relaxed to finish next part of song instantly. It was the safety and courage she gave me that inspired me to continue. I trusted her totally at that moment.

The second type: friends of the same interests.

            This kind of friends always talk about happy things with each other. They have interests in common. One can go out together with such friends and participate in a variety of activities; it will add a lot of fun to life; but associating with such friends rarely involves personal privacy.

            In middle school, I really liked to watch Japanese anime, but sometimes I needed a friend to share the feelings I had. Then I knew a person online, and we watched the same anime, and we shared views about that anime; sometimes we would talk about our life but only about those superficial topics, such as what city we lived in, what kinds of food would be attractive. It was a really happy period of time when we talked with each other.

The third type: friends like a mentor

            In life, we need a friend that can inspire us to be better. Having such a person around will challenge us to be better ourselves every day.

            Xingxing is a sophomore and major in Public accounting. Although she is one year younger than me, I feel that there are many things that I need to learn from her. We have two same classes together this semester. She is really hard-working, every class she will learn by herself before the professor teaches, she will always finish her homework before due day, and she is a mentor of her accounting professor, she also works in success center. It seems that she has a lot of work to do every day, but whenever I see her, she always looks happy. Together with her, I always feel that I need do more in a day and that I can do more things than before. I start working longer on studying rather than computer.

The fourth type: opposite friends

            Human beings are like to get together in groups and attract outsiders. We will only make friends with those who have the same belief, customs, and value with us, and probably will phase out the rest of people. But people who are totally different from you will show you a really different view of word. We should make friends with people who have opposing views; they can help us to expand the new version of the world.

              Before I came to Unite States, I went to an English center to improve English skills. A girl who taught me reading impressed me. She was 27 years old then; she majored in Biological about panda and she did very well, but she gave up the way she chose before that to became a professor then to become a Doctor and finally to be an academician. She said she didn’t want a future that was set already, so she gave it up, wanting to go out to feel different things. At that moment I didn’t understand why she gave up a really good work, but now I comprehend. A person shouldn’t be limited by age, he/she has right to follow his/her heart. It influenced me about my views of future.